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Why did I move on so fast from a relationship that was my whole life and I was so attached, I moved on by 2 months?

11.06.2025 07:07

Why did I move on so fast from a relationship that was my whole life and I was so attached, I moved on by 2 months?

I’ve made the rebound relationship mistake in the past. To prevent myself from doing it again, I made a rule to casually date a person for at least a couple of months before getting intimately serious with them. I know that might seem to be moving very slowly given modern life but I wanted to ensure I was past any infatuation for them before considering commitment. Refraining from complications brought on by intimacy early on makes life a hell of a lot easier to handle emotionally. Especially when you have that itching feeling that you should not feel so comfortable with someone new just yet. Give your mind and heart a chance to catch up with your groin so your decisions will be in alignment will all aspects of your desires.

A lot of people jump into rebound relationships to fill some need or void without actually taking the time to see if they are genuinely attracted to the person. Not just sex appeal. Not just an appreciation for paying attention to you and giving you some validation. Actually loving and caring about this person and wanting to build a relationship and life with them. Make sure you are actually wanting this new commitment you’ve placed yourself into quite rapidly after a relationship you say meant a lot to you.

Unfortunately, only you can answer that question. I recommend you take some time to consider your emotional state right now. You may seem fine but if you are questioning your actions, you are acting against your own better judgement. So I highly recommend you slow things down in your current relationship before things get too complicated so you can think about what might have lead you to do this and ensure your heart is in the right place before you move any more forward.

Hello, I have a question about astral projection. I started to get interested in this a little while after my mum passed in april. I thought I may be able to see her and speak with her if I managed to achieve astral projection. Since this interest, every time i sleep on my back I go into sleep paralysis. However, I cant progress into astral projection because it is very scary for me as I feel like I'm suffocating when this happens. I panic and force myself to wake up. This only ever happened about once a year before this. It sometimes lasts a long time. This has happened about 3 times per week since my mum died, as mentioned on a previous post. I no longer try to go into it anymore(due to the suffocating feeling), but it still happens. I read that sleep paralysis is the pathway to astral projection. Why has this started to happen so frequently since simply taking an interest in it? Is this connected to the afterlife? I am concerned about it as I now cannot seem to stop this happening. Could it be my mum trying to communicate? Im asking due to more knowledge around this in this group.

Be honest with yourself. Were you afraid of being alone or really missed having someone around? Were you looking to replace what you lost by having a partner? Were you so sick of your ex that the first person you met seemed absolutely excellent “by comparison?” Did you fall out of love a long time ago and the break up was well overdue? It is important to come to terms with what motivated you so that you can address that issue and be a healthy partner for this new person.